In pioneer school and Bethel it was drummed into the sisters that we could not tell a brother what to do. We could at best humbly suggest it and then it was up to the brother(s) whether or not to follow our suggestion. Also, there was a CO who made the biggest issue (from the platform) about sisters not correcting a brother who gave the wrong answer during the meeting.
He said , "Friends when a brother makes an error, who are the first ones to raise their hands to correct him? It's the sisters isn't it? Wouldn't it be better if the sisters look around and wait to see if another brother will make the correction before stepping out of their place and taking matters into their own hands?" All of the sisters (including me) were nodding dutifully.
But then later our PO (who fancied himself a liberal elder) said (from the platform) that he couldn't believe some insist a sister can't correct a brother. He said, "It is absolutely appropriate for a sister to correct a brother............as long as she does so respectfully"
There was another incident where we (the sisters) had prepared lunch for the CO's visit. These sisters had worked so hard to prepare various dishes and have them warm and ready. Well the CO's wife had all of these allergies so the sisters altered their recipes on her behalf and managed to come up with a full menu. The CO walks in from the other side (double kingdom hall) and comes up to me and asks "how many meats are there" The sisters (many of whom were elderly and poor) looked scared to death. I told him there was one meat available but lots of side dishes and soups/stews. As he holds up two fingers in my face, he says "There should be two meats" The sisters were scrambling around trying to figure out what to do. I was seething inside as I left and bought chicken to go with the ham.
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